Expectations. Whew. So much of our lives can be lived without realizing how dearly we hold the expectations that others have for us, let alone starting to examine our own. There's real power in recognizing and acknowledging these things though. They are certainly a tricky thing — when you say your expectations for how you want to feel are out of your control, what does that look like?
Love the musical accompaniment here. What a beautiful experiential way to help me be with you in this moment. Thank you. xoxo -R
You're SO welcome, Ryan! Yay! That's EXACTLY what I thought about the song as I was listening to it again while writing (and when I heard it while on retreat). Being together in spirit through the words and the sounds!
And yes...Expectations...such a big, deep sigh! Such power in looking them right in the face to see how much power they hold over us. Things I think are guaranteed. And I'm attached to. And feel real loss or failure if they don't happen. So what feels out of my control is ensuring desired feelings tied to outcomes. Like I expect to be a Mom and therefore feel happiness. Right now, I'm working on less attachment = less loss = more peace (how I want to feel) as a feeling I can "control." Control is a whole other can of worms, though right? ;)
Expectations. Whew. So much of our lives can be lived without realizing how dearly we hold the expectations that others have for us, let alone starting to examine our own. There's real power in recognizing and acknowledging these things though. They are certainly a tricky thing — when you say your expectations for how you want to feel are out of your control, what does that look like?
Love the musical accompaniment here. What a beautiful experiential way to help me be with you in this moment. Thank you. xoxo -R
You're SO welcome, Ryan! Yay! That's EXACTLY what I thought about the song as I was listening to it again while writing (and when I heard it while on retreat). Being together in spirit through the words and the sounds!
And yes...Expectations...such a big, deep sigh! Such power in looking them right in the face to see how much power they hold over us. Things I think are guaranteed. And I'm attached to. And feel real loss or failure if they don't happen. So what feels out of my control is ensuring desired feelings tied to outcomes. Like I expect to be a Mom and therefore feel happiness. Right now, I'm working on less attachment = less loss = more peace (how I want to feel) as a feeling I can "control." Control is a whole other can of worms, though right? ;)